2017 was an important year for me because I had my first ever orgasm with a partner during penetrative sex.* This brings my grand total of partners I’ve had orgasms with up to two. That’s right – despite being sexually active for a number of years (with more than two partners, and not only men), I would rarely orgasm during partnered sex. The majority of those times, though, my partner would.
I thought it was normal, and a Durex Global Sex Survey confirms that I’m not the only one. Two thirds of women report that they don’t orgasm every time they have sex, but claim they’re still satisfied. Most of these women also think that it’s important for their partner to orgasm. And it’s no wonder – we live in a phallocentric world, and this phallocentricity translates to sex. Sex ed and mainstream porn and media teach that us that sex ends when a penis goes sploosh, but Durex wants to change that. With their Intense Orgasmic line of products, Durex places more focus on orgasms for both parties during sex, especially for women and people with vaginas. I had the chance to try the line out and I can confirm, life is better with more orgasms.
I follow a few sex bloggers and YouTubers, and I like to do my research before investing in a new toy the same way I do my research before buying a new foundation. Most of the time, toys that get a lot of hype don’t catch my attention, or seem to have mixed reviews. But this one is a little different, because it really delivers. The Womanizer Pro40 is the Fenty Pro Filt’r Foundation of sex toys: so worth the hype.
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Confession: I hate Christmas. It stresses me out. So, I started my Christmas shopping last week. I feel like it’s early to start listening to Christmas music and stuff, but it’s basically never too early to start making progress on the list of gifts I’ve got to pick up.
I have no idea what to get my hockey-loving preteen cousin, or my uncle who has everything…but I do know what beauty lovers want. Or, at least, I know what I’d want, so I’ve put together a little list of recommendations with reviews of the products where applicable. Just in time for the Rouge/VIB/BI Sale at Sephora!
I think that most of you know it, but I’m a full-time grad student, and blogging is just my hobby. Every so often, I get stuck – in blogging, in life – and for the past two months, the exact nature of the “stuck” is comparing myself to other people. As a result, I haven’t felt like blogging. So I thought I’d blog about it. (You can also skip to the faves if you’re just here for that.)
So here’s the thing: I love sex, and I love sex toys. I love these things as much as I love makeup – maybe more.
For a while, I’ve been toying (get it? Because sex toys?) with the idea of reviewing vibrators and other sexy items here on my blog, but I thought my dear readers might not be interested (at best) or might be scandalized (at worst).
This will forever be a beauty blog first, but I’ve been dabbling with lifestyle posts – including ones on menstrual products, dating, and mental health! – and I wanted to incorporate yet another thing I’m passionate about.
So I’ve been doing this talk therapy thing with various mental health professionals for twelve years now, six of which have been with the same psychiatrist. In my experience, it’s the kind of thing that leaves me with more questions than answers and I never really feel like I’m done. I’m okay with that, though. I’m not done – I’m cookie dough.
I have learned things along the way, though, and although I’ve never been super into diaries I’ve found myself thinking about the things I’ve learned lately. I thought I’d share.
I’ve suffered through excruciating menstrual cramps every month since my very first period at age 9. Like, debilitating. So bad I’d throw up at times. I took birth control to manage the pain for about five years, but when I went off the Pill (for a variety of reasons), the cramps were back in full force. Normally, I take an extra strength Advil every six hours or so to manage the pain on days one, two, and three of my period.
In desperation, last June, I contributed to Livia’s Indiegogo campaign.
I ended a long-ish term relationship back in January and realized that I’ve never done the casual dating thing. I’ve been in a series of (almost) back-to-back relationships in my young adult life, and I didn’t date when I was a teenager because I lived in a small town and went to an all-girls school and was generally weird and awkward and shy.
I’m still weird and awkward and shy, but now I have the internet to help me out a bit. So here are a few things I’ve learned on my strange, frustrating, entertaining online dating adventure. And make no mistake, I’m writing these truths down as much to remind myself of them as I am to share them with you…
I’ve veered off-track with my posting schedule these past few weeks, and that’s because I’ve hit a particularly rough patch. It feels so artificial to come on here and pretend to be happy/excited about some product when I’m not really feeling much like doing anything. But this is my blog, and I love it, and I want it to remain a space where I can express myself – even the sad parts. So here goes.
I live with depression and anxiety. I probably have for about 11 years, but I’ve been diagnosed and medicated for six. Some times are harder than others, and this is one of those times. It feels like everything is happening at once. I’m having issues with my physical health (that’s a tale for another time). I ended my year-long relationship for a variety of reasons, but it’s a loss no less. There are family things going on. I need to secure a summer job. Although depression does not have (or need) a “reason,” these are just a few of the things going on with me that I think may have exacerbated the depression I live with on a daily basis.
DevaCurl is where I got my curly start. I bought and read Lorraine Massey’s book The Curly Girl Handbook cover to cover shortly after I started wearing my hair curly regularly. So when my boyfriend and I planned a trip to New York City, you can bet I booked a trip to the DevaCurl DevaChan Salon in Soho.